Comments on: Too Many Things

By: renaeden

renaeden — Sat, 25 Aug 2007 03:52:17 +0000

I think it is a trade-off. Things we can handle as kids get harder as we get older, yet we get better at handling situations that would have led to a meltdown when we were younger.

By: erkolos

erkolos — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 16:29:54 +0000

Bah, didn’t care reading.

Now that I’m finally getting homework done by setting a routine for it I am very happy with the progress that I’ve made. I don’t think you should compare yourself to others.

By: Big White Hat

Big White Hat — Wed, 22 Aug 2007 04:24:59 +0000

Martial arts! I had no idea. Me too.

By: your sweetie

your sweetie — Wed, 22 Aug 2007 00:24:05 +0000

All I know that every day, every minute, you are doing your very best. I know that doesn’t really help or change the situation but I hope it helps remind you that given everything you have to deal with, you are an amazing person. You have grown and changed so much since I’ve known you, in ways you never thought possible. It doesn’t make it better necessarily because it doesn’t help you concentrate or be less confused or get out of the house or figure out how you can work in the best possible way. I just hope that sometimes when you look at your situation you can see how much you have pushed yourself way past your limitations. Things tend to go in phases - maybe you are in a “stuck” phase right now on many levels - it’s happened in the past and I have every reason to believe you will get unstuck at some point. All you can do is what you’re doing - the best you can. Plus you have a teammate who will never let you bear the burden of your “different brain” alone - and who will shoot frostballs while you beat the bastards to death

By: d

Tue, 21 Aug 2007 23:49:07 +0000

kinda heartbreaking post, and no i’m not gonna proselytize, talk about how “every cloud has a silver lining”, cuz frankly someone saying that to me bugs the hell out of me, and i think it’s delusional thinking anyway. the glass is neither half full or half empty; it’s just water molecules caught in a container, and then you standing, staring at it, trying to think deep philosophical thoughts about it.

does suck, your status. my only 3 thoughts:

1) have you considered medication to help you focus? this is something i have a ton of problems with, being able to focus, concentrate, and have often wondered if a medication would help, but i do so badly with medication/side effects, i’m not even gonna try. and i’m not sure you’d want to overload your body with yet more meds.

2) have you considered taking your powerbook outside the house to work? if i’m stuck in my house, trying to work, sometimes i get trapped, and can’t focus at all. but if i find i took my laptop somewhere, to a cafe or bar, it’d somehow enable me to focus, at least for an hour or two. this helped me get thru my nanowrimo attempts, and for freelance work as well.

3) given this is related to executive function, i know it really sucks, and you’ve tried so many options, project management stuff, but it’s still possible that your mind is bogged down with so much admin stuff that your overloaded mind cant’ deal with the stuff you’re good at, geeking out with web tech stuff. the world is vast, and there’s possible there’s a project management solution that exists, one you simply haven’t found yet.

in any case, i do appreciate, given everything, that you were able to sit with me on saturday for an hour in an air-conditioned car in a berkeley metered parking space and chat with no sign of visible overload. =)